If you are ready to change your past patterns and finally create a truly fulfilling relationship, you can take the following steps to begin the process of attracting love into your life.

BE AUTHENTIC: Once you are truthful with yourself about who you really are, and you allow yourself to live authentically, you greatly increase your probability of attracting and keeping [partners with] your most harmonious Love Colors. You don't have to be perfect before love can come into your life. You need only realize and accept that you are already the perfect lovable you. Reading about the different Love Color personalities at www.auracolors.com will help you recognize and understand your true nature and enable you to give yourself permission to live authentically.

TRUST YOURSELF: The key characteristic of people who are happy and successful is that they believe in themselves. And chances are they learned to believe in themselves - which means anyone can do the same. Wouldn't you rather be with someone who is self-confident and who enjoy's life? It's a good bet that your partner will feel the same way.

BECOME WHAT YOU LOVE: Develop in yourself the qualities that you desire in another person. Are you asking and expecting your partner to have qualities that you are afraid to develop in yourself? This type of inequality rarely creates a successful or harmonious partnership.

Deep inside, most of us desire partners who are a better, more confident version of ourselves. If you read through the descriptions in my book, Love Colors, you'll notice the qualities that most colors prefer in a companion are the qualities that reflect those Love Colors' own positive nature. If we believe we are compassionate, friendly, and nice, we usually prefer those qualities in our mates as well. If we are healthy and active and enjoy life, we love to be with others who are healthy and active too. If you are attracted to people who are self-confident and self-actualized, do you believe they would want to be with partners who are insecure?

This doesn't mean you have to become strong and macho in order to attract a macho partner. It does mean, however, that such a person will probably desire someone who exhibits inner strength and self-confidence. Again, most of us desire to be with people who are the same as, or better than, ourselves.

TRUST YOUR INTUITION: If you learn to trust and follow your inner voice, you may end up being in the right place at the right time to meet the wonderful partner who is right for you, or you may sense how to create balance in your current relationship. Once you learn to have faith in yourself, you will also learn to listen to and trust your inner voice.

BE OPEN AND TRUST LOVE: Trust that you are a great person, and that if you are hurt in a relationship, you will survive to love again. Suffering the loss of love isn't pleasant - it can be downright painful - but it doesn't have to be the end of happiness forever. Allowing yourself to trust, to be open and available, to be willing to love and fully give yourself to another, will eventually give you the ultimate reward of true intimacy. There are so many wonderful people in the world who are ready to be in a happy relationship. Allow one of them into your life.

FACE YOUR FEARS: To remove the emotional blocks that may be preventing you from entering into a satisfying partnership, begin by identifying and then exploring what frightens you in relationships. If you cannot face your fears and heal them, you will most likely bring them into your relationship.

REDEFINE YOURSELF: If you change how you define yourself and how you perceive yourself, you can change your relationship experiences. You may be limiting yourself by your definitions of who you are - weak, lonely, unhappy, inadequate, unhealthy, lazy, unlovable, uninteresting. You don't have to stay the same throughout your life. You have the ability to choose your own thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors. If others can succeed and be happy in life, so you can you. You can keep what you love and appreciate about yourself and let go of the rest. If you haven't examined and changed either your behavior or your perceptions and attitudes about yourself, then it may be time to do so - unless you are willing to attract the same type of unsatisfying relationships into your life. Believe you can change.

KNOW WHAT YOU TRULY DESIRE: One of the most important steps in creating your ideal and most fulfilling relationship is to be honest with yourself about what you truly desire. If you are not sure what type of person you really want, and you have not fully considered the consequences of your choices, this may be why you have not yet created your ideal relationship.

The above article is an excerpt from Love Colors: A New Approach to Love, Relationships, and Auras, copyright 2006 by Pamala Oslie. It is printed here with the permission of the publisher, New World Library, Novato, CA, 1-800-972-6657 ext. 52. The author's website can be found at www.auracolors.com.