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Astrea responds:
Dear Helena,
It's misguided to think that ALL female bosses are mean and controlling. Everyone is the same deep down, so generalizing about any one sex, race or ethnicity will put you at a definite disadvantage in work and in life.
Whether male or female, bosses will be bosses. If they're determined to be difficult, it doesn't matter what sex a person is. Just because your bosses have been women and you haven't liked working for them doesn't mean that you would like a rude and abusive male boss any better.
A boss or manager has to be a somewhat controlling person to be in that position in the first place because that person has to be in control. That doesn't give them license to abuse their employees or bully anyone, of course, though some people with powerful positions enjoy doing just that. Your boss may be one of those people.
While you can't change her, you can change how you interact with her. Center yourself before you go into work every day, and take a piece of rose quartz to put in a drawer or on the desk where you work. (Since you're an ocean away from her, she won't see that or make fun of you for doing it.)
The rose quartz is a little protection from her verbal assaults. It won't stop her but it will make YOU feel better to be surrounded by the healing pink aura of that stone.
The only spiritual way to get along with a difficult person is to change the way you communicate with her. In order to survive this job, you'll have to learn to turn off your feelings of hurt and anger and get on with the job of creating harmony with her.
You may never be friends, and that's hard for Aquarians, especially those born close to the Aquarian/Pisces cusp. Because of your birthday, no matter what job you have or who you're working for, it will always be important to you that people like and respect you, that you enjoy the people around you, and that you don't feel they're out to harm you in any way.
Listen carefully to what she says so you can determine what is important to her and send it back to her in positive ways. If you meet her with LOVE, she may not be loving but she can't be evil. By taking control of your own feelings, you will take control of the effect you allow her to have on your life.
Remember that this is just a job and you can find another one. If you love your job, however, you'd be wise to find a way to feel love for your boss. Make finding a new job your Plan B for now, and open your heart. You can work miracles with other people with the power of love.
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Susyn responds:
Dear Helena,
This sort of problem is more common than you might imagine. I've known people who can work with same sex bosses and others who strongly prefer to work with the opposite gender.
You don't mention the birth date or astrological sign of your boss, but because it seems to be a consistent problem you experience with most of your employers, the issue may lie within your own astrological makeup or personal life experiences.
Being born on the cusp of both Aquarius and Pisces can be either a very difficult placement or a very powerful one, depending on how you integrate the two energies. As visionaries, Aquarians can be very inventive and often move in ways that make no sense to the world at large let alone corporate America.
When you consider that some of the greatest visionaries of all time were Aquarians, such as Thomas Edison, Charles Darwin and Abraham Lincoln, you can see that their ideas and philosophies were not readily embraced. Despite this, they achieved success and acclaim when they made their ideas work. Even Steve Jobs, inventor of the Mac personal computer, had to fight to have his visions accepted.
So it could be that your bosses don't understand you or what you're trying to accomplish. Because they have usually been women, perhaps they felt threatened or concerned that if you took a very different approach than they would personally use, you may not be able to get the job done the way it needed to be done.
You're also blessed with being born under the sign of Pisces. As a woman, this gives you more strength, power and determination than most. Again, this aspect also will inspire you to move in ways that might seem foreign to others.
Your ability to work within the confines of management and under authority figures may be fine when you work with men, who don't expect you to do things the way that they would. Their only concern is that you get the job done.
By contrast, women charged with overseeing your work may expect you to be more like them, and when you take a different approach, they may try to micromanage or control your work.
The bottom line, of course, is if you love your job and want to continue working in your current position, you'll have to be the one to change. Your boss may relax if you give her more information, ask for advice, and keep her updated on your plans. You might focus on explaining how your approach will produce the outcome she desires. This will build more trust, and once she assumes you will get the job done well, she may relax a bit. |
