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Julia

Julia Melges-Brenner is an ordained Spiritualist minister, certified hypnotherapist, metaphysical writer, webmistress of muse-net.com, and editor of Kajama. She is a medium/clairvoyant, and has worked as a spiritual counselor and healer since 1994.

This week Julia explains why we are wise to evaluate psychics based on the quality of their own lives.

Dear Julia,

I've been seeing a psychic for a couple of years now, and though she seems genuinely caring and many of her predictions have come true, nothing in my life seems to be getting better. As I've gotten to know her, I've come to realize that her own life is a mess; in fact, she may have even more problems than I do! This has come as quite a surprise to me, and it makes me feel uneasy. Is it normal for gifted psychics to not be able to solve their own problems or to be in constant turmoil? Do you think I should leave off working with her and look for a new psychic reader?

-Jane

Dear Jane,

Before I go into the main issue, I think it's important to point out that even the wisest advice in the world won't help you if you don't act on it. Many times people receive the answers they need from all sorts of different sources over and over again, but nothing changes until they acknowledge those truths and allow those insights to shift their thinking and their approach. Occasionally I have clients come back to me months or even years later with the same old problem, and it's not because the advice given in the last reading didn't work; it's because they never acted on it, and are still hoping that they can keep doing the same thing they've always done but get different results.

Now let's explore your unnerving discovery that your psychic's life seems to be a bigger mess than your own. Many gifted psychics do have all sorts of problems. Most may say that this is because they can't read for themselves, but I strongly believe that we are wise to judge others' wisdom not by what they say but by who they are and how they live.

To be psychic is simply to be sensitive enough to consciously pick up on subtle energies that can't be perceived with the five physical senses. While psychic abilities are a natural result of general spiritual growth and development, they can also kick on spontaneously. For example, psychic abilities can be awakened by a serious illness, traumatic accident, or the stress of childbirth. They can also be launched by experimentation with mind-altering drugs.

Having psychic ability does not necessarily make people wise, loving or enlightened, nor does it make them good spiritual counselors; developing those qualities requires spiritual devotion and lots of personal growth. One must purify the heart and mind and cultivate a rare level of honesty with one's self and others to be a channel for divine wisdom and healing.

In fact, in the early stages of psychic development, there seems to be an inverse relationship between psychic ability and everyday competency. I think this is because people get top-heavy in their chakra development, which leaves them ungrounded and partially disconnected from physical reality. They may thus be able to do things that most people can't do, such as see auras and spirits, but be unable to do other things that most people find unremarkable, such as hold a job, maintain good health, keep their house in order, etc.

In my view, psychic guidance is only as valuable as it is useful and helpful, so though you may find a psychic's predictions accurate, they won't do you any good if you keep repeating the same underlying habits that caused your problems in the first place. We must look beyond quick answers and surface details to uncover and heal the core issues preventing you from manifesting greater fulfillment. This personal growth and healing is what will empower you to truly change your life.

Scam artists aside, I believe that all psychic readers have good intentions but some are incapable of seeing themselves honestly and clearly because their egos are blocking the light. As a result, they tap into less than the highest and best in the spirit world and mistake what they receive as being from a higher source. It's not the highest guidance available, it's just the highest guidance they are capable of accessing at that point in their development.

Of course, the law of attraction is always in action, so there is a psychic match for every client. Since we naturally attract people who mirror our own energy, folks who are really struggling financially tend to be attracted to psychics with prosperity issues, and people who feel loveless tend to be drawn to psychics who don't know how to create happiness in love.

In order to create big changes in your life, you have to consciously break this pattern and reach for something higher, so instead of going to someone who feels comfortable, you'd be wise to seek out someone who really impresses and inspires you. To tap into greater personal potential, you have to be willing to stretch yourself in new ways.

I'm sure there are many spiritual counselors who surpass me in wisdom and power, but from my present perspective, I define great healers as people who possess certain traits and habits. For example, great healers never blame or condemn anyone for anything; they see the divine in everyone and emphasize the truth that each one of us is creating our own reality. Great healers never advocate manipulation or control; instead, they encourage love, forgiveness, faith, peace and personal responsibility.

They also don't set themselves up as superior to you or foster your dependence on them. Instead, they guide you to clear awareness of what feels right and true, help you reconnect with your own divine creative power, and leave you feeling centered in love and compassion for yourself and everyone else involved.

If you decide to look for a new psychic reader or teacher, I recommend you keep these qualities in mind. Also, seek someone who is enjoying the quality of life you'd like to manifest for yourself. Judge their level of spiritual development by who they are, the effect they have on others, and how they live. If a psychic is constantly broke, stressed out, anxious, angry, depressed, ill or frustrated, you probably do not want to follow in their footsteps. If she radiates calm faith, peace, love, well-being, abundance and joy, then clearly her approach to life is sound and effective.

Also, remember that the bright face people present to the world can mask a lot of shadows. When we first meet people, they naturally put their best foot forward, so after we get to know them better, we may be disappointed to discover that they are not who we thought they were. If they're trying super hard to impress, they may suddenly flip out or break down when the strain of maintaining their facade becomes too much to bear. We can save ourselves a lot of time and heartache by listening to our intuition and at bare minimum expecting the people we choose to put our faith in to be fundamentally competent.

I hope I don't sound harsh or judgmental here, for everyone is just where they are supposed to be, doing what they need to do in order to learn whatever they need to learn. I'm simply pointing out that we are wise to choose our mentors carefully. It makes sense that if you want to get fit, you'd hire a trainer who can lead you by example, not someone who is even more out of shape and lost on this path than you are.

To predict for yourself the results you can expect from working with a particular counselor, it's wise to study that individual's life, for that is an undeniable manifestation of their wisdom and vibration.

--Julia
 
 
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